Types of Abuse

Domestic violence is physical violence, sexual violence, emotional abuse, or stalking carried out by a current partner, a former partner, or a household member. Domestic violence can happen to anyone at any time regardless of age, race, religion, culture, or socioeconomic class.


You are being physically abused if somebody…

  • Pushes or shoves you
  • Hits or slaps you
  • Pulls your hair
  • Kicks of punches you
  • Restrains you with force
  • Chokes/strangles you
  • Throws objects at you
  • Abandons you in a dangerous place


You are being emotionally abused if somebody…

  • Wants to control all of your actions
  • Withholds approval, appreciation, or affection as punishment
  • Continually criticizes you, calls you names, and/or shouts at you
  • Makes all decisions for you
  • Humiliates you in public or private
  • Subjects you to reckless driving
  • Ridicules your most valued beliefs, your religion, race, or heritage
  • Manipulates you
  • Gaslights you


You are being sexually abused if somebody…

  • Touches you in ways that make you feel uncomfortable
  • Forces you to have sex against your will
  • Makes demeaning remarks about your gender
  • Forces you to take off your clothing
  • Calls you sexual names
  • Pressured you to get pregnant
  • Hid, destroyed, or tampered with your birth control
  • Pressured you to have sex
  • Treats you as an object based on your gender identity or sexual orientation
  • Insists that you dress in a more or less sexual way than you want to dress
  • Sends you an unsolicited nude picture or sexual text
  • Posts or shares nude pictures of you without your consent
  • Makes you feel like you can’t say no
  • Refused to wear a condom


You are being financially abused if somebody…

  • Does not allow you to work when you want to
  • Forces you to work
  • Does not give you access to money that you are earning
  • Will not allow you to work, but refuses to give you money for basic essentials such as hygiene products, school supplies, or groceries
  • Takes out loans or credit cards in your name without your knowledge or consent
  • Forces you to sign tax documents you know to be untrue


You are being stalked if somebody…

  • Tracks your location through digital apps
  • Follows you to and from different places
  • Keeps tabs on your daily life
  • Repeatedly calls your phone or messages you
  • Damages your belongings (car, home, or other property)
  • Monitors your phone or technology devices (whether it be through spyware or the device itself)
  • Threatens to hurt you, your friends, your family, your pets, or your oved ones
  • Drives by or lingers around your home, work, school, or other places that you frequently visit


You are being spiritually abused if somebody…

  • Does not allow you to go to church
  • Forces you to practice a religion or forces you to adopt their religious beliefs
  • Forces you to go to church
  • Does not allow you to practice or express your religious beliefs
  • Uses religious texts to threaten you or as a justification for hurting you or your loved ones


If you are experiencing domestic or sexual violence, you can reach out to DVIS at the 24-Hour Crisis Line by calling (918)-743-5763 or (918)-7HELP.ME. You can also contact us through our 8PM-1AM text help line by texting SAFE to 207-777

If you are thinking about leaving an abusive relationship, help is available and you have a right to healthy relationships regardless of your gender identity, sexual orientation, socioeconomic class, immigration status, age, or race. We believe you.