Am I Experiencing Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behaviors where one partner tries to gain power and control over the other partner in an intimate relationship. This could be a current partner or a former/ex-partner. There is no typical victim. It can happen to anyone, of any race, gender, sexual orientation, or class. Intimate partner violence is common. The Center for Disease Control reported that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 10 men have experienced contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner during their lifetime.


If your partner has ever…

  • Used physical force against you
  • Prevented/discouraged you from spending time with friends or family
  • Threatened harm against you or loved ones
  • Purposefully put your wellbeing in danger
  • Gotten violent during arguments
  • Forced you to have sex
  • Been extremely jealous
  • Punched, hit, slapped, or kicked you
  • Refused to wear a condom
  • Strangled or choked you
  • Pressured you to drink or use drugs
  • Destroyed your belongings or home
  • Belittled you
  • Intimidated you
  • Destroyed or hidden your birth control

…you may be in an abusive relationship.

This is not a comprehensive list, but every single one of these things amounts to emotional or physical abuse. Abuse is never your fault, and it is never acceptable. You deserve safe and healthy relationships.


If you are in immediate physical danger, please call 911.

If you are experiencing domestic violence or want to help someone who is, you can reach out to DVIS at our 24-Hour Information & Crisis Line by calling (918)-743-5763 or (918)-7HELP.ME

You can also contact us through our 8PM-1AM, text SAFE to 207-777

If you are thinking about leaving an abusive relationship, help is available and you have a right to healthy relationships regardless of your gender identity, sexual orientation, socioeconomic class, immigration status, age, or race. We believe you.