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Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behaviors where one partner tries to gain power and control over the other partner in an intimate relationship. This could be a current partner or a former (ex) partner. There is no typical victim. It can happen to anyone, male or female, at any time. Domestic violence crosses all racial, age, sexual orientation, religious, and socioeconomic boundaries.

QUIZ: How is your relationship?

1. Is your partner extremely jealous?
2. Does your partner tend to isolate you from family and friends?
3. Does your partner use force during an argument?
4. Is your partner verbally abusive?
5. Does your partner look or act in a way that scares you?
6. Is your partner controlling?
7. Does your partner act like the abuse is no big deal, or is your fault?
8. Does your partner threaten harm against you or those you love?
9. Does your partner force you to have sex when you don’t want to?

If you answered “yes” to even one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. You are not alone; abuse is never acceptable.

If you are experiencing domestic violence or want to help someone who is, please call us at 918.7HELP.ME (918.743.5763). If you are not ready to make the call, there are some things you can do to plan for leaving in a safe way, if it becomes necessary.

If you feel unsafe, please call DVIS and complete the relevant safety plans below:

Domestic Violence

Sexual Assault



If you can’t leave your home


Click here to take a danger assessment.